Waiting on a Spouse...

Why do we become a Christian only to turn back to the world and try to live in it or pull us a spouse from it instead of waiting on God? I once passed a sermon by Joshua Selman on YouTube about the mystery of waiting on God. I didn’t even have to watch the video because God has already dealt with me on the art of waiting. I knew what he would be saying. Perhaps something like it’s both a blessing and a privilege to wait on the Lord and indeed it is. From personal experience He exposes to us what’s really in us and most of the time the truth to why we are asking for what we want and not what we need. If we do ask for something that we need we ask for it with the wrong motives James 4:2-3.

I was on a website and this lady is giving testimony to the power of God. She is asking for prayer for her fiancé to be free from violence and ignorance. She’s asking for prayers because he can’t keep a wife and doesn’t know how to treat a woman. Question why entertain this? In most cases we are our own worst enemy and the devil laughs at us over it. Then we say things like the devil did this or the devil did that oh the devil is a liar. What is a person thinking, feeling or believing that puts them in a position where they say they will marry someone like this because their nice? I can only imagine God’s hurt as we act in desperation to have ourselves attached to someone that badly that we would just take anything that comes across our path.

Truth is people don’t want to wait. Society has got us hooked on having it now. No, I’m sorry having it right now. The inability to wait gets us in the hot seat more than we realize. I know people that went and got their spouses and they are miserable. You would think they were married to the devil or spending time in hell to hear them talk. They always want to tell you some half backwards advice to get you screwed up with them because misery loves company. Everybody that gets saved goes through a give up or cool down phase. They back away to analyze life and see if they are real with God and if they even going to continue with Him. I feel sorry for people that marry someone before the person has committed to God fully.

Is not desperation another form of loneliness? It will drive you mad seriously. Desperation is a sign of damage and we can’t see that until it’s too late. So, why does God ask us to wait anyway? Why does He seem to take His sweet time? Doesn’t He understand we ready for a spouse like yesterday? Yes, He does know all of this He is omniscience remember. He really wants us to wait so we’re prepared. He wants the marriage to be a blessing not a curse. He wants it to last until somebody leaves earth. The wait is to build you into what you are asking for. You can’t honestly expect God to just give you this great spouse and never address the issues you have like the fact you don’t like to cook or can’t. You won’t clean the house, or maybe you got a couple of kids that are running your household or a few baby mommas with more than enough drama.

We must know what marriage is for and then prepare ourselves to be the one that the person we’re looking for would choose. Here’s a great example why would a millionaire come to the hood or projects and pick a wife? Why would a woman that owns a company marry a man with no job that lives with his mom? It doesn’t make since. We must get our priorities in order and waiting helps us to do that. If a person doesn’t understand that marriage is servitude, they shouldn’t be discussing marriage but that’s just my opinion. People tend to ask God, then wait a week, month, maybe a year and somehow find themselves making it happen because God just moved to slow for them. A great example of this would be Sarah not waiting for God’s promise, so she sends Abraham into Hagar. After we make a mess of things, we ask God to clean things up and it ought not to be this way. God knows just what we need and when we need it. No good thing will He withhold from us. We all must get it together before we tie the knot. Besides making Christ our savior who we marry is the second biggest decision we will make. Way to many of us get it wrong the first time around why not wait on God’s timing to make sure we get it right the second time?