Marriage is Work

Marriage is a union between a man and a woman before God. During the making of this contract or covenant there is the exchange of vows and expectations. Promises are made but it goes way deeper than that. Marriage is service. It’s saying I am here until the day I leave the earth. I’m yours and will be faithful, honest and supportive to you. It’s two people becoming one flesh. Its two people saying I love you enough to become what you need me to be for you. Do you need a friend, counselor, lover or just intimacy? Well then that’s what I’ll be for you even if you upset me before I leave for work. When I get home, I will still serve you because I trust God to guide you, so we make this right before bed.

Its two people trusting that the idea they have for the marriage is understood by both parties and will be pursued even in times of hardships or temptations. All too often we ignore that what we do to get a person we will have to do to keep them so we should really be our true selves. Our responsibilities to the other only grows with time. However, as time does go on even with the increase in responsibilities the load is made easier with the merging of the two. Love fuels the two. We grow in understanding of each other. What the other needs, wants, desires, likes etcetera and as we concentrate on providing what the other needs the load is made easier. Why? Because we don’t mind doing something for someone when they do the things, we need of them.

When two people become one there is the mixing of two personalities and mindsets becoming one. This merging into one process is not easy. It might be days that we honestly will not like each other. On these days our commitment must count for something. Our commitment to God, our commitment to our own word and our commitment to our spouse. If a person can’t commit to God, they will never truly commit to us. If they can’t commit to God who’s going to see to it, they keep up their end of the agreement? Who holds them accountable? Therefore, its best to wait on the spouse God has for us. For some weird enough reason, the average person just can’t seem to utilize wisdom in a proper way to choose a spouse and that’s usually because we have some wall of protection or other barrier from rejection or emotional hurts up. In which case we aren’t ready to serve because we need healing first. We can’t just hope for a marriage and figure it out as we go. We must have understanding. A man equates love with respect and a woman well she needs to be loved. Remember a man is giving his life for you be submissive respect him. And men likewise remember that she does have to submit to you be worth following. Eph. 5:22-25.