Most Overlooked Ingredient for Success

When we agape another we are often rejected as the person is unaware of how to reciprocate this to us. They may very well philia us but not agape as they have not matured to that level yet could this be why Peter was grieved the third time Christ asked if you love me?

Peter’s healing came because wisdom shed light in his heart that he was not where he needed to be or even where he wanted to be but nonetheless, he still desired to obtain it and did what was needed to do so.

Let’s talk about the gift of rejection and how it leads to the success the Most High has for our lives. Rejection is not about the pain and the hurt feelings, or the horrible thoughts Satan tries to dump in our head after being rejected. It’s about the opportunity that is presented to be like the Father, for us to grow in character and integrity and to step into a new level of His glory. 

Rejection is twofold, it offers us motivation and encouragement. It motivates us to shift our perspective to readjust our focus as we are challenged to grow in the fruits of the spirit. We gain wisdom from the lessons learned in the rejection itself. It encourages us to do something about our situation or circumstance which usually leads to a change that we can see. It encourages us to prepare to step out there again once we have healed from the growth. Just as the muscle tears itself down to build itself up bigger and stronger so to must we allow rejection to tear us down that through it we are built up bigger and stronger carrying more of the Most Highs light out into a dark and dying world.

The most vulnerable person I know is God the creator, our heavenly Father I AM THAT I AM. He lovingly and patiently waits for us to stop rejecting His gift of eternal life through His son Christ and to come be more like Himself. We fail miserably at this, but He allows the precious presence of Holy Spirit to come upon us and transform and renew our hearts, minds and lives. As we grow in our desire towards Him, we begin to experience what He experiences every day on a larger level. For example, we are discouraged by the rejection from one person or one situation, yet he lives daily with the rejection of His creation from billions. Everything and anything He require from us He experiences on a larger level we couldn’t imagine. We can never be rejected the way He is. We are rejected a few times in life now look at His rejection from billions all day every day.

Believe it or not, with rejection comes a revealing of truth and the opportunity to be honest and healed. Look at Peter in Matthew 26:69-75 he denies Christ three times. Peter has spent a great deal of time with Christ and has learned a lot. Not to mention he has done supernatural works because of his relationship with Christ yet he denied Christ. What came next was a revelation. In John 21:15-17 Christ after the resurrection asked Peter three times do you love me. Perhaps Peter became grieved because he was enlightened that the love, he has for Christ isn’t agape. The healing came in the grieving which led to repentance. Christ was able to use the very one that once rejected Him to build and establish His church on. Sometimes we look for the romanticized version of events and circumstances, we look for the easy way out with the least amount of pain as possible and to that I say this. There was no easy way out for Christ carrying that cross, Christ crucifixion was painful, and He is indeed asking us to lay down our lives to become more like the great I AM THAT I AM.  Know without doubt it is painful and uneasy to die to self and do the will of Him that has called us.

We must recognize the truth. That fear, doubt and disbelief hinder the growth we need to obtain the kingdom. Often, we are afraid of how someone will react to what we really want to say or how we feel and that stops us from saying it. Being vulnerable before others allows us opportunities to be honest ourselves and to be more like the Most High.

When I’m honest about how I feel or where I stand, I present the other person with the opportunity to be honest with me no matter the outcome. In most cases the fear of how the other person is going to react is not as bad as we think it is. Fear causes us to fail because we often never try and rejection causes us to fail because of the fear of pain. Both are about growing past who we are, to become who we are destined to be.

Peter failed to acknowledge the truth at Christ crucifixion, that his heart posture wasn’t where it needed to be. He later rises to the occasion and the church of Christ is established through his work. In Revelation 7:14 we see that there are 144,000 elects coming out of that church to fight in the last stand against evil. Never view rejection as failure but it is indeed an opportunity to grow into who you are at the core of yourself.

Many are called but few are chosen. I think a big part of few being chosen is because not many people are willing to grow and reciprocate that agape love and even fewer are willing to lay down their lives for it.

 There is one key ingredient to be successful and because of fear, doubt and disbelief many go throughout life never reaching their full potential or becoming who they were destined to become not to mention never having what God intended for them to have in this life.