Shamefacedness, a Woman's Secret Weapon

There is an order in which the creator of this universe put in place and established you can read that in 1 Cor.11:3. When this order is not kept chaos comes. As a woman it can be difficult to let go of the programming, hold onto the Lords hand and trust in Him. First Timothy 2:9-10 says we as women are to carry ourselves as godly women not being caught up in the outward adornment. We are to be modest in apparel and shamefaced. Lets get a look at the meaning of  modest and shamefacedness to see how they are a woman's secret weapon given by the Most High.


I like how Collins dictionary explains modesty, it says a woman that is cautious about the way she dresses and behaves because she is aware that other people may view her in a sexual way. Dictionary.com says having or showing a moderate or humble estimate of one's merits and importance. Some sites even say not large in size or amount, or not expensive. A godly woman works on her inner beauty being careful not to show herself as some sexual object that is to be conquered. She understands the order of heaven and walks in obedience. This doesn't mean that she doesn't dress well or isn't fit. It means she is respectful of all things especially her finances.  A worldly woman works on her outward beauty rarely if ever doing anything to create sustenance inwardly. She looks for ways to be supported while walking in rebellion. She looks for support to pay for a lifestyle she can't afford. This lifestyle often includes the best clothes not saying its wrong to have the latest fashion but we shouldn't live for it. She needs her hair, nails and eyelashes done too regularly. She is looking to live in the most expensive house and take the most expensive vacations. She expects for others to adorn her with all her desires.

Shamefaced is knowing to respect a man and not look him in his eyes directly. You ever see a person stare at another until they turn their heads? This is what men do to tell if a woman is agreeable. If she never turns her head but stands her so called ground staring him right back in his face she's not a good candidate for a date let alone marriage. Why because she doesn't understand to walk in her femininity. A woman is to be bashful meaning shy. This is important because staring someone in the face is typically a male thing. Look at any documentary two males typically stare each other down before they throwdown. When men battle in any sport they are staring the other in the face to size him up. If we look at the animal kingdom you see it as well. It is a challenge to look anything in the eyes. Try staring at a tiger, lion or bear in the eyes and see what happens. A woman is to be shamefaced before a man meaning she shouldn't be looking him in the eye or in his face. She shouldn't look to draw attention to herself, she should be shy before men. You look at him for about 3-6 seconds and turn your head. The way you do when you meet that hot guy and you turn your head so he doesn't see you breath so hard, smile so hard or bite your fist cause he just that fine. Forget what the world taught you to shake a mans hand and look him in the eye if you want the job. It doesn't work there either. In the work world women that do this intimidate the interviewer to the degree that they can't see anything pass your inability to respect him by turning your eyes away. Even a female interviewer is like what the heck is wrong with her? What she staring at?

Shamefacedness is two fold for women. We are to be shamefaced to men with downcast eyes (turn our eyes away) and to God by being in awe of Him we respect Him we bow ourselves before Him.
In the same way a man should also be shamefaced towards God. This is why we worship with our faces towards the ground, we bow ourselves to the ground for we are not greater than God so, we bow to show Him respect. A woman turns her eyes away because she came from man and he is over her because the Most High says so. This is respect.

The world has taught women to seek out attention any way they can get it. There are a lot of women that are loud in speech and attire and think its cute. If a woman truly seeks to protect herself from being taken advantage of by a guy her first line of defense is being obedient to God's word. In doing so most guys that are playing games will see that they can't approach you with their silly games because when you are not loud and clamorous you exude confidence. Guys look for who can be manipulated or who is desperate and the number one sign is a loud woman rather your loud with your mouth or loud in your apparel they seek to destroy you and tear you down.  Please notice I said guy and not man real men of the Most High aren't playing games to start with. I'm talking about protecting yourself from those that pretend to be men but are secretly boys in the body of a man. Know that this is truly our first defense against those looking to turn us away from the Most High it is our best defense against that guy that's looking to take all that we would pour out never giving anything in return but heartache. Here's a thought even if a woman isn't in church or" living for the Lord" it makes sense to live this way because it cuts through a lot of the garbage that's out there. I'd rather have one authentic encounter with a man than to have ten encounters with boys that play games and waists time. So, there you have just one of the many weapons the Most High equipped women with to walk wisely in life and choose a proper provider.